Discipline Vs Dignity

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"By dignity, I mean the high place attained only when the heart and mind are lifted, equally at once, by the creative union of perception and grace"

It is no wonder human beings are always in some kind of pathetic confusion which leads to all kind of chaos in living. The terminologies of living are often misunderstood. This leads to unhealthy living – mentally and physically. The current educational methodology all over the world teaches a student on how to make a living but not really on a living. Living life is often misspelt with words. Mind always fail to be still, without wandering. Imaginations, fantasies, the need of pleasure materialwise, physicalwise etc., are filling the calm abundant space of mind to make it clumsy and the petty human mind never ever gets satisfied that it is full enough and that it cannot take more.

It was one such afternoon I was talking to my colleague to ascertain my above argument. Waiting for meals in that reputed restaurant in Chennai seemed to be no easy task. The restaurant was full as the bearer announced our waiting list number, so that we have to wait until our turn. I can see men and women wandering and pondering around the restaurant like bees into their hives. Quality of the food in that restaurant I thought. My colleague started slowly then

Colleague: Sir, How will you define a happy life?

A.V.R. : How can we define anything in this world sir, and now you are speaking about life itself. Can you please explain What is meant by happiness and how it is achieved?

Colleague: Yes, Say for example, I feel I am living life satisfiedly with my family, my wife, my children and also I have a good job to ponder around my day to day needs. I am having good savings balance, my own house. Something like that.

A.V.R. : Does this mean achieving all this is the real happiness on what you meant?

Colleague: Of course one man in his life is always running behind these things right sir?

A.V.R. : Of course all people do. No no. Most of the people do and they call it as their accomplishment and also the purpose of life. We do run always behind these things. But can you say are we really finding the real happiness in these things. I mean the real happiness.

Colleague : When one man achieves the purpose of life, then doesn't that mean the real happiness.

A.V.R. : Purpose of life cannot be achieved, it is there already. Realization of it with awareness is the most important one I believe. With highest state of awareness which leads to more disciplined way of living.

Colleague : How can one achieve such highest state of awareness and what you call as disciplined life?

A.V.R. : Your Question more clearly sir.

Colleague : What you call as discipline sir? Say I have my family. Happy family. My wife and Children. Indeed I do everything for them. They are satisfied with the way I am being with them. My wife loves me a lot. My children too. But suddenly, for example say, I am getting a relationship with another woman. It happens naturally. I fit into this new post but still I am in the same way as I was before in my family life. Now what will you call my life with that another relationship? Will you call it the way you called as “Disciplined Life”?

A.V.R. : Why Not? But on one condition. Discipline in life is often misunderstood and mishandled. Most often the meaning of that word is changed by humans according to their own needs. No one is aware of what is a disciplined life or what is a dignitarian life. We cannot always say a man becomes dirty without dignity and discipline only because he does something marked “don'ts” in the society. Society's these “don't do's” are generalized and often considered as written rules, like what will happen with traffic rules. Rules have to be obeyed and are only obeyed. This is called discipline.

But life is not like that. Its set of rules is entirely different. They are actually no rules. Life in its own way is differently suitable individually and personally for each and every silly human being. He ought to realize clearly what is his set of protocols provided to him from the universe. He should be keen on what is real happiness, real harmony, real peace and on what we are seeking behind the real prosperity. This all lies in what I am going to say now.

Colleague : What is that sir?

A.V.R. : Can we strongly analyse and review the current situation you are put up into. I mean the imaginary situation you are presenting to me. Can we?

Colleague: Yes sir. I am ready.

A.V.R.: Now answer me sir, when you have this relation, a new relationship with another girl, I am assuming this relationship is not in anyway for some sensory pleasures

Colleague: No. Actually not.

A.V.R: Do you say your family knows about this? I mean your wife and is she happy with that. Leave about the children they need to grow a little bit. But this new relationship will affect somebody directly – mentally, that is your wife. Are you sure that your wife is not having any conflict or difference of opinions in this matter regard. Provided that you are taking care of your family very well. This is like you are seeking a fresh relationship. So I mind your wife understands you and assumes that she is really happy with this happening.

Colleague : Will that ever happen sir? Okay if it happens like that, then you call it the disciplined way of living?

A.V.R. : Hmm. No it is dignified way of living. Discipline comes from the set of rules fixed, in this case by the society. Moreover it can be based on a religion, a community, a country and all that sort of divisiveness. A school uniform is a disciplinary activity yet that pupil – the growing mind will be excited and wait for saturday to expose him in costlier casual dresses. Isn't it?

But dignity comes only out of what I call as highest state of awareness. My question is, is it really happening like that? Are you sure your 'new relationship' won't create any kind of conflict for you or anybody else around you or that girl itself. Then that means you are doing it with highest state of awareness and you are not in any way away from the life of discipline or dignity. I know I have to talk about this very carefully or else it would be mis interpreted.

Carefully follow my question. Are we having that highest state of awareness what I am talking about, as it does not create any kind of conflict with anyone? Especially are you sure that it won't create any trouble in your family life. Will it ever happen in current way of living sir?

An awakened mind, a fully aware mind is only capable of doing this. He can manage on how to handle the happenings, again I am carefully talking, handling in the sense to handle this new relationship in a proper way of everyone's acceptance and that will turn fruitful for everyone. It will overcome the do's and don'ts of the society which are merely controls to be forcefully exercised by mind. But I am a person who believes any kind of control for obedience will not brew one true result. I wear uniform today, but my mind always long for my casuals so that the boys and girls in my class will pass on comments on my dressing.

This is not the same in case of Dignified way of thinking. I know very well what is the use of the actual wear I am wearing. I don't control anything here. I don't wait for Saturdays. What we need is to be more dignified with high level of thinking. That will never happen unless or otherwise each human mind thinks about this choiceless awareness in the same way it is put up in this universe by itself.

Colleague : Yes sir, I understand. So you say society's rules are useless.

A.V.R. : No, I say, I and you as part of society, as society itself, interpreted the laws of the universe wrongly. Can you say, with the highest state of awareness will you still be able to have a new fresh relationship, after all if it is only for pleasure. Because in this society the word discipline is often synonymous with words like “Pleasure”, “Lust”, “Luxury” etc., Am I right? Are we not always behind this as you said it before and thats why this dialogue of discipline.

Let me put it like this. Once you are aware of life, say the realization of life happens to one like you or me and do you think that one will tend to seek this what is called worldly pleasures again in the same way he did before that awareness.

He will be completely aware sir. Completely aware of the worldly things. Then his search will be entirely different. After this awareness if still 'he' in this example 'you' continues with that relationship that truly will not be a seeking of anything stated above as Pleasure, Lust and Luxury. Now the purpose will be entirely different. Am I right? It will be purely for some true purpose or something strong behind that happening and the universe surely counts him as a more dignified person, because that relationship is not seeking anything conditional, it is purely unconditional. Are we getting through this, understanding this in a right way? I know I have to be more careful while counting these things. The purpose in this case will be super conscious. This will happen only if we are truly aware and alert in this universe.

To be more clear, this kind of dignity will help a self disciplined individual with the extreme consciousness of ever existing rules of the universe, which are not a set of rules packed to control, but living in itself.

A way of which you may call a way of defined happy living with Peace, Prosperity, Happiness and Harmony.