Almost 10 in the night. We are returning back home from the tea shop, a place of our gathering ad the only place I go out to relax myself. The physical illness have halted lot of things in my life. Pleasure and Pain. A topic already discussed. The gathering with some youngsters and discussing with them have opened up a lot in my mind; positive or negative. Cool night with clear sky. I always use to watch night sky, love to watch it, especially when it is clear without clouds, mist, as clean as nothing just with many twinkling stars will make my mind rejoice. I am used to it from my younger days onward, sleeping in the terrace, watching the sky, talking with my Mother Nature, feeling like I sleep in her lap itself. That young man's voice broke of my serenity i'm enjoying watching the sky.
Seeker : Anna, we do a lot mistakes in our life. I say it is unavoidable. But others say a man reaches perfection only when he does no mistakes. Do you think there is a perfect man who does no mistakes?
A.V.R. : So we are talking about mistakes. To go into this, we should know what mistakes exactly are. Right? If you say mistakes are unavoidable, then it should be an integral part of life. So what is a mistake. Let’s derive from the word itself, A take which is not proper, mis- take, a take which could mislead you to an undesired position. Am I right?
If that is the case, then we cannot always say our takes ie., the initiatives for anything in life would be proper always. We make mistakes, because we are unaware of them. You make them, I make them, everyone under the sky makes mistakes. We are unaware how it would affect us in reality. Since it is misleading, we call it a mistake. Thus it becomes un avoidable. I will say mistakes are part of life. If we don’t mistake there is no proper learning of life. No mistakes means that is the part of perfection. Like Creator's hands.
Seeker: Yes anna. Without mistakes we will be having only a theoretical knowledge, but not the practical one.
A.V.R. : You are right. Any book or text can tell you do this, don’t do that, and be good or whatever it is.
But when we think of it in right terms how do we know that something will not harm me unless or otherwise we don’t have a practical idea of it. Our mind may not accept this as true. But we do it, yes we did it in our life and still doing it.
Take the common example which people say always, If we tell a baby, nature of the fire and not to touch it, as it would hurt the baby. We have the idea of fire and heat, how it would burn etc., in our mind. We try to impart that one to that baby. The baby studies that, acquire a glint of knowledge, have an idea that it would hurt. But the petty human mind will still think about how that would hurt. The mind would be too curious until it experiences the hurt.
Unless that baby touches it for one time and feel that is heat, not intentionally, may be accidentally, then only that baby or later in its any age, understands exactly how fire would hurt. Until that doesn’t it remains a theoretical idea?
Seeker: Yeah. It remains an Idea. But do you say that humans must experience the bitter facts in life, do mistakes and learn from it.
A.V.R.: There is an old concept in educational psychology, relevant to all ages, Trial and Error method of learning. It was actually done to study animals. The good old method even used nowadays to train dogs. To make a cat or dog understand the cage door has to be open in a way, first that animal has to experience that harm. It will try in all its way, finally manages to open the cage. Then onwards it will have a learning that the cage has to be opened in one specific manner only. We humans are no different from any animals. Though we show we have rational thinking, we have sixth sense etc., still we do mistakes, we take erroneous steps and when we get harm or hurt, we understand the aspect and tend not to do it again. But not always.
Seeker: But anna, there are people who repeat their mistakes. They tend not to learn from it. Say for example, a boy or girl go in for a relationship thinking he or she found a suitable partner, finally when one understands this won’t work out, go in for another relationship and repeats the mistakes.
A.V.R. : Okay, you have taken that as an example; somewhat heavy. Let me try to explain. Lets first analyze what we tend to learn from mistakes. A right human mind when it knows it would hurt when mistaken, even an animal mind, which is far lesser from human thinking, will not repeat the same mistakes. A learning in this case is a cause of awareness or a state of alertness, when we tend to repeat the same mistakes, then the inner mind would promptly alarm “No, Don’t do that. It already had hurt you”.
But when an adolescent do a mistake of choosing a wrong partner, calling a life partner, indeed it is a beautiful concept which has to be discussed separately, when it gets hurt and still the mind does not learns from it, then this part have two different factors of derivation. One is mind has not yet become alert ie., it has not understood the seriousness of the problem caused by the mistake. That is the act of innocence. We don’t try to learn from our mistakes.
The second one is “Let us see whatever it comes on the way. Life is only one”, Policy. An act of carelessness, ignorance, putting oneself into fire, this act of ignorance is rather dangerous as it will spoil the inner harmony, often create fluctuations in life, impermanency in anything handled.
Seeker: That’s what I'm asking anna. Is that good for a person?
A.V.R.: How could that do good? If you are innocent, then it means you want to learn more. But when you are ignorant, it means you are careless, deviate from the real facts, sees only the pleasure involved, negligent about the sequences to be incurred, pain which is going to be derived out of it etc., In such a case are we not digging our own 6by2 feet something.
I can say one thing. I said mistakes are part of life. It happens foryou, me and for everybody. It happens for all individuals human or animals else for birds. It is only about mistakes. But those little creatures learn from it and don’t do it again. But the nasty human mind saying itself, that it have rational way of thinking, it ignores the real facts, and get into trouble again and again. When mistakes are repeated again and again, then it could be called as blunder, the worst thing ever a human is doing.
Mistakes are often done, we can let go of it. We must let go of it. The repetition of mistakes, even though knowing it as mistakes is intolerable. But this ignorance causing blunder is a plague, a chronic disease. If a baby touches the fire again and again, play with it, one or other day it is sure that the fire is going to harm that baby in a higher and deeper level. Then there will be an act of regression which cannot be of any use. There is no revival if one makes blunder.
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